I have taken a while since I penned down the remaining of what I had to deliver on loneliness ;but for good reasons though.First,my presentation to you deserves sufficient content to quench your thirst.
The other is because when writing about passionate matters one needs to take time and write when his conscience is clear.
Anyway last time we talked about that strange thing called cortisol that gets produced and increase in levels when we feel a tinge of loneliness. We talked also of texting being a snack while face to face contact being a meal.Yes,we need a full meal to get satisfied. This was to elaborate that chatting(whatsapp, phone texts etc) is not enough to deal with loneliness. Today we are going to proceed swiftly to what we can do to counter or avoid loneliness. Put your eyes and attention here:
WHAT YOU CAN DO
1.Assume the best:Supposing you go to a photo sharing website like instagram and see pictures of your friends at a a gathering to which you were not invited. At that moment,you have a choice-either to conclude that you were deliberately snubbed or to adopt a more positive outlook.Since you cannot know all the factors involved,why assume the worst?Instead direct your energy towards thinking of a better explanation for your outlook or perception that brings on feelings of loneliness.
2.Avoid sweeping assertions: When you are lonely you might think,’I never get invited anywhere’ or ‘People always avoid me’.But these sweeping assertions will only make you sink deeper into the quicksand of loneliness. Such thoughts can create a vicious circle. You feel like an outcast which makes you isolate yourself.
3.Be willing to befriend older people:The advantage of people older than you is that they have a mature way of viewing things and have the stability of mind.They cannot pose unnecessary competition and criticism on you.In the Bible,David’s friend Jonathan was 30 years older than him but still had a healthy relationship.
4.Appreciate the benefits of solitude: Some people feel lonely as soon as they face a moment of privacy.But simply being alone need not make you feel lonely.For example ,instead of seeing your being alone as a disadvantage, use quiet time to reflect appreciatively on your blessings.That can make you an even more desirable friend to others.
These are just some of the ways to curb loneliness.And hey don’t just sit there reading this like a tingatinga tale,help a friend !!
The eternal quest of the individual human being is to
shatter his loneliness.
—Norman Cousins
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